Sex & Relashionships
The art of small talk First Date Conversation Starter
Let’s be honest , first dates in Nigeria can be both sweet and somehow awkward. You’re sitting across from someone you’re just getting to know, trying to keep the vibe flowing without it feeling like a job interview.
One wrong move, and the whole date can feel like a Nollywood drama.
But don’t worry. The key to breaking the ice is simple: small talk. The kind that feels natural, not forced. Not too deep, not too dry. Just easy, relatable, and warm like a chilled bottle of malt on a hot Lagos afternoon.
Here’s how to make small talk feel good and real on your first date:
1. Start With What’s Around You
Look around. The location, the music, the food, all of these can help kick off the conversation.
Example:
“This jollof is fire o, but not as good as my mum’s own sha.”
“I like the vibe of this place ,very calm. Have you been here before?”
It’s easy and gives you both something to laugh or talk about right away.
2. Ask About Daily Life
You don’t need deep questions yet. Ask about everyday stuff in a fun way.
Try:
“So how do you survive Lagos traffic without losing your mind?”
“Are you team amala or team rice every day?”
These are the types of questions that get people smiling.
3. Talk About Hustle, But Not Too Much
Work is important, but don’t make it the whole gist. Mix it up with passion and fun.
“What do you do for work?”
“If you didn’t have to hustle for money, what would you be doing instead?”
This gives insight without sounding too serious or calculated.
4. Be Real About Yourself Too
Don’t just ask, share! That’s how people connect.
Example:
“Honestly, I almost cancelled today because my barber gave me the worst haircut. But I said, no wahala, let me show up like that.”
Let them see the human side of you not just the “trying to impress” version.
5. Use Humor
Crack light jokes. Naija humor is rich and relatable.
Example:
“Have you ever had a tailor tell you ‘it’s almost ready’, and three weeks later, you’re still waiting?”
Everybody can relate to that one. The point is to say something your date can relate to
6. Talk About Home, Friends, & Small Memories
We love stories in Nigeria. So share a little.
Ask or say:
“What’s the funniest thing that ever happened to you in secondary school?”
“My grandma once told me if I whistle at night, spirits will slap me. I believed her for years!”
These small stories can spark big laughs and deep connection.
7. End With Sweet Words
As the date winds down, say something kind.
Example:
“I really enjoyed this. You’re easy to talk to, I didn’t expect it to go this well.”
No need for shakara. If you had a nice time, say so.
Final Thoughts
Small talk isn’t small when it builds real connection. It’s not about being perfect it’s about being present, being yourself, and letting things flow.
So next time you go on a first date, don’t carry tension. Just show up, talk small, laugh loud, and enjoy the ride.
Who knows? That one conversation might just lead to something beautiful.