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10 Love Languages Women Respond to

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About a year ago, my best friend’s husband sent an SOS to me. It came as a shock; for starters it was the first time he was sending that type of message, secondly, I was troubled when he made me promise not to tell his wife about our little phone chat. I arrived ten minutes early to the place he had picked with a mild headache as a result of overthinking.

When he arrived, I noticed he looked drained and had bags under his eyes and seemed to have lost a few pounds from the last time we saw. He sat down heavily in a chair, “your friend is driving me nuts,” he blurted out, “she’s changed, so unreasonable and difficult to satisfy and it’s killing me.” I felt instant pity for him, this was a man in-love with his wife and ready to do anything to make her happy. I heaved a sigh of relief asked him not to worry as I educated him on Gary Chapman’s “love language” he left with a new spark in his eye and safe to say things have been going just perfect for them.

Relationship can never be perfect because people are not perfect. Every man or woman faults as well as virtues. We are sad, selfish, ungrateful or rude. We all have our definition of love, your definition of love cannot be the same as your partner’s and this is where problem comes from. Your woman is not unreasonable or detached you just haven’t discovered what her love language is yet. According to Gary Chapman, the author of “The Five Love Language” here are ten most common love language that women use or respond to.


Quality Time: Being married or in a long term relationship doesn’t mean fun has to end. Plan uninterrupted time with her such as romantic dinners, trips and movie dates. Be intentional about her interests and values by doing this you make her feel cherished.

Physical Touch: Affection in form of touching is not primarily reserved for making love. This can be anything from holding hands to cuddling. Touch is powerful and speaks louder than words, especially for women who prioritize this love language.

Acts of Service: Doing something practical for her, like gisting with her while she cooks or running an errand, can make a woman feel loved and supported.

Listening: Not listening is the number one mistake most men make. Women like to talk, and value it when their partner truly listens to them and responds thoughtfully to what they’re saying.

Compliments: Every woman wants to feel special. Not just feeling sexually attractive to you, but they want to know they’re appreciated, use your words.

Recieving Gifts: For women who prioritize this love language, gifts don’t have to be expensive or extravagant; even small thoughtful gestures like a call in the middle of the day can make a big impact.

Quality Conversation: Women use conversation primarily to form connections with people, with that said, having meaningful discussion can help strengthen the emotional connection between partners.

Acceptance: No woman wants to walk on eggshells around her partner. Women who prioritize this love language want to be fully accepted and not rejected for who they are or what they want.

Unforgettable Memories: Looking back on shared experiences, such as anniversaries, special vacations, or other memorable moments, can be a powerful way to strengthen a relationship.

Emotional Support: Nothing beats having a compassionate partner that feels your pain as much as you do and support you. Women who prioritize this love language might feel unloved if you’re not supportive emotionally.

Remember, the key is to find out which love language your partner prefers.

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  1. JP

    24 August 2024 at 6h42

    I just got schooled. Lol! Thanks

  2. Queen of White Hearts

    24 August 2024 at 19h40

    Great!!!

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Can Your Partner’s Scent Actually Reduce Anxiety?

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Ever noticed how just catching a whiff of your partner can make a stressful day feel a little lighter? That comforting smell isn’t just in your head; science suggests it can have real calming effects.

Research indicates that familiar scents, like your partner’s perfume, cologne, or natural body odor, may trigger the release of oxytocin, a hormone linked to bonding and relaxation. Simply hugging your partner, snuggling, or keeping a worn T-shirt nearby can help you feel calmer after a tense day.

Our brains are wired to connect smells with memories and emotions. The olfactory system interacts closely with areas of the brain that regulate fear and anxiety, such as the amygdala. That’s why a partner’s scent can give an almost instant sense of comfort and safety.

For couples in long-distance relationships, these effects can be especially valuable. Swapping clothing items or using shared-scented products can create a sense of closeness even when physical hugs aren’t possible. In daily life, this subtle connection can strengthen emotional bonds while easing stress.

Of course, the effect isn’t the same for everyone. Personal preferences, past experiences, and even genetics can influence how soothing a partner’s scent feels. But for many people, a familiar fragrance is a simple, quietly powerful way to feel more relaxed and connected.

 

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Nigeria’s First Treehouse Restaurant

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Port Harcourt just got a dining upgrade, and it is literally above the rest. TreeHouse Afriq, Nigeria’s first treehouse restaurant, offers a one-of-a-kind experience where good food meets fresh air and leafy views.

A Meal with a View

Forget ordinary tables and chairs. Here, you will enjoy your jollof rice, grilled fish, or plantain fritters while perched among branches, with the gentle sway of trees adding a calming soundtrack. It provides a quiet escape from the city’s hustle without leaving it behind.

Modern Flavors, Local Roots

TreeHouse Afriq specializes in Afrofusion cuisine, blending traditional Nigerian flavors with a contemporary twist. Every dish is thoughtfully prepared, and the drinks menu features cocktails that enhance rather than compete with the flavors on your plate. It offers familiar food, served from a fresh perspective.

The Atmosphere Matters

The magic of TreeHouse Afriq goes beyond the food; the setting takes center stage. Open-air seating, soft lighting, and natural greenery create a warm, intimate space perfect for casual dinners, small celebrations, or simply enjoying a quiet evening out.

Setting a New Standard

While Lagos has its share of treehouse-themed spots, TreeHouse Afriq stands as the first in Port Harcourt to bring this concept to life fully. It reflects how Nigerian dining is evolving, offering experiences that extend beyond food and appealing to both locals and visitors seeking something memorable.

Plan Your Visit

Located at No. 1A Bank Road, Old GRA, beside the NBA House, TreeHouse Afriq is easy to find and impossible to forget. Whether you are a local resident or just visiting, a meal here promises an experience that will linger in memory long after the last bite.

 

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What is Shreking? The Trend Changing Modern Relationships

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Dating in Nigeria today comes with twists and turns we never saw coming. From swiping on apps to endless chats on WhatsApp, it feels like the rules keep changing. And now, there’s a new term in town: Shreking. No, it has nothing to do with ogres or fairy tales. This is a modern dating habit that’s quietly taking over.

What Shreking Really Means

Shreking is when someone dates a person they’re not genuinely attracted to, often because they hope the other person will treat them like a queen or king. It’s not about love or chemistry; it’s about comfort, attention, or perks.

Imagine dating someone who buys you gifts, always wants to spend time with you, or goes out of their way to make you feel special, but deep down, you don’t feel that spark. That is Shreking in action.

Why People Shrek

People Shrek for different reasons. Some are tired of being rejected and settle for someone who will appreciate them. Others are drawn to the security or admiration a partner offers rather than genuine feelings.

With dating apps making it easy to meet people but hard to build real connections, Shreking becomes a shortcut. It is a way to enjoy the perks of being in a relationship without the messy work of emotional investment.

The Risks Involved

Shreking might feel harmless at first, but it comes with consequences. The person being Shreked often ends up confused and hurt, thinking there’s a deeper connection. Meanwhile, the person doing the Shreking risks missing out on real intimacy because the relationship is based on convenience rather than attraction.

It also creates awkward situations. When honesty is missing, expectations clash, and both sides can end up frustrated.

Is This a New Thing?

Not really. People have always dated for reasons other than love: status, comfort, or stability. What is different now is that social media and dating apps make it more visible and easier to discuss. Shreking simply has a catchy new name.

How to Navigate It

If you’re dating in today’s world, it helps to pay attention to your motives and theirs. Ask yourself: Are you with someone because of genuine attraction, or because they make your life easier? Notice if someone is truly interested in you, or just what you bring to the table.

Relationships work best when both people feel a real connection and make an effort for each other. Shreking may provide temporary comfort, but it rarely leads to something lasting.

Bottom Line

Shreking is more than slang. It reflects how modern dating is evolving and makes us question the choices we make about love and connection. Next time someone asks if you’re Shreking, pause and reflect. Your answer may reveal more about your heart than you expect.

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