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How Important Is Sex in a Relationship

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Talking about “the importance of sex in relationship” would have gotten us a side-eye just a few decades ago as its considered a taboo. But, in recent times people have become unapologetically sexually liberated and we are here for it. Before we delve into its significant role in a relationship, it’s important to note that sex is not the oxygen that keeps a relationship alive, it does not make things better. The truth is, it might improve relationship but sometimes make things difficult. For some people its the most important thing, but for others it can be overlooked if the relationship is on a good track. That being said let’s dive into the importance of sex in a relationship, shall we?

Intimacy and Connection: It’s undeniable that the emotional side of love is intimacy, everybody wants someone who knows and understands them better than anyone else. And most times sex gives this type of feeling. Having sex can help you and your partner express love and affection in a way that deepens your bonds and strengthen emotional ties. It allows you connect on a different level with your partner, it can lift mood and ease tension. Without sexual intimacy especially in marriage couples will be distant and lonely even while living under the same roof.

Improves Relationship Health and Communication: Having regular sex keeps partners committed emotionally and improves communication. Communication makes or breaks a relationship, and sex teaches you how to communicate with your partner in an unimaginable way through physical touch which speaks louder than words sometimes. Additionally, talking about how you feel during or after sex with your partner can help you both understand each other, boost confidence, self esteem, self worth and improves relationship.

Vulnerability: Trust, and strong emotional connection are unquestionable traits built through sexual intimacy.

Ease and Relief Stress: Sex reliefs stress and tension in relationships. That is why most times make-up sex are the best in reconnecting and resolving conflicts.

Relationship Satisfaction: Overall pleasure and contentment in relationship can be influenced by sex. Having a good sexual intimacy makes you and your partner feel more happy and fulfilled.

 

Ultimately, the most important thing here is for couples to prioritize their connection and relationship, find a way to maintain intimacy, whether its through sex or other form of intimacy.

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  1. Queen of White Hearts

    19 August 2024 at 21h50

    Interesting, Thanks for sharing @Ene Unazi!

  2. Queen of White Hearts

    19 August 2024 at 21h55

    I’m glad you shared this because sex and good communication is important in relationship. Though sex is mostly recommended for couples.

  3. Queen of White Hearts

    19 August 2024 at 21h58

    Keep on the good work @ Ene Unazi!!!🤗

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Is Sex Enough When Your Partner Is Far Away?

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Missing someone hits differently when the lights are out and the silence settles in. It’s not always about the big things—sometimes, it’s the small habits you shared. The way they reached for your hand without thinking. The sound of their keys dropping by the door. In long-distance relationships, staying sexually connected can feel like the obvious way to keep things alive. But after a while, you start to wonder: is that really enough?

There’s More to Closeness Than Intimacy

Sex might feel like the most urgent thing missing—but it’s rarely the only thing. What we often need more than anything is presence. The comfort of sitting in the same room without speaking. Running errands together. Arguing over what to watch on Netflix. These aren’t glamorous moments, but they build the kind of bond that keeps people grounded in each other’s lives. When you’re apart, physical intimacy becomes symbolic—but it doesn’t always fill the silence.

It Carry Everything

A lot of couples lean heavily on sexting, video calls, and flirting to hold things together. It works—for a while. But emotional connection needs more than desire. It needs real check-ins: How are you really? What’s stressing you out? What made you laugh today? Without these conversations, it’s easy to start feeling like you’re just acting close instead of actually being close.

Loneliness Doesn’t Always Feel Loud

You can talk every day and still feel a gap. Even with all the affection, something can start to feel hollow. Not because you don’t care about each other—but because real connection also lives in silence, in habits, in unspoken routines. Sometimes, what you miss isn’t sex at all. You just want someone next to you when you’re tired. Someone who knows your face without needing to ask if you’re okay.

So, Is Sex Enough?

No. It’s important—but it’s not the full story. Relationships built only on physical connection, especially from a distance, tend to wear thin. You need something steadier. Shared goals. Honest conversations. A rhythm that doesn’t depend on chemistry alone. Because when life gets hard, or when the spark goes quiet for a while—as it always does—you’ll need something deeper to return to.

What Keeps You Together When You’re Apart

Set routines that go beyond desire. Watch a series together. Talk about your daily routines, not just fantasies. Share your worries, your plans, your boring days. Send voice notes instead of texts when you can. Let them hear your tone. Let them hear your tiredness, your laughter, even your silence. These things help build something real—something that feels close, even across a distance.

Distance is hard. No need to pretend otherwise. But if you want something real, then you have to build more than heat. You have to build warmth.

 

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Morning Sex: More Nigerians are Starting the Day in Bed

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There’s a quiet but palpable change happening in Nigerian bedrooms—and it’s taking place in the mornings. More and more, Nigerians are starting the day no longer with tea or a traffic report, but with intimacy. Sex in the morning, once a private pleasure, is becoming mainstream as one of the couple’s daily rituals across the country, driven by changes in attitudes toward wellness, relationships, and work-life, not just for pleasure, but as a health plan.

 

It was discovered in recent polls by lifestyle and dating websites in the major cities of Lagos, Abuja, and Port Harcourt that more than 60% of Nigerian adults aged 25 to 45 admit to having engaged in morning intimacy at least once in the past month. Of them, nearly 40% say that it has become a matter of weekly habit.

 

Experts point out several factors fuelling this trend. Advances in remote and flexible working have reduced the morning commute for many city dwellers. With commutes either reduced or eliminated completely, couples have more time to connect with each other before the workday begins. In the meantime, there is greater awareness of the health benefits associated with morning intimacy—both mental and physical.

 

“Morning sex releases endorphins and oxytocin, which reduce stress and promote emotional bonding,” explains Dr. Ifeoma Ajayi, a Lagos psychologist and wellness coach. “It’s said to lift your mood, improve your concentration, and even benefit immune function.” It’s a natural kick-start for the day.”

 

For some, it’s also reviving closeness in long-term relationships. Relationship advisors say many couples struggle to incorporate quality time together into packed schedules after long workdays. Mornings that were once filled with alarm clocks and hurrying around are now being reclaimed for connection.

 

“There’s a shift in culture, indeed,” says Chuka Eze, who edits the relationship column for Naija Living Today. “Nigerians are more openly talking about sex and intimacy, not merely as personal acts, but as components of overall health and relationship health.”

 

This trend is not limited to youth or city residents alone. Whether experienced professionals living in Ibadan or just-wed couples in Enugu, couples across all of Nigeria are embracing the notion that the way you wake up dictates everything that follows.

 

Local brands are beginning to take notice. Lifestyle brands are selling “slow mornings,” and even some wellness influencers are adding intimacy into their morning routine videos. It recently featured one TikTok video that broke the internet where a couple talked about how “morning love” changed their relationship and it accumulated over 1.2 million views.

 

Talking about sex openly still makes many people uncomfortable, even as attitudes slowly begin to change. In many communities, it’s a topic wrapped in silence, with calls for privacy often clashing with the growing need for honest conversations around intimacy and sexual well-being.

Yet, despite the hush, more Nigerians are embracing morning sex as part of everyday life. For some, it’s about nurturing love and connection. For others, it’s a way to start the day on a happier, healthier note. Whatever the reason, it’s becoming clear that this isn’t just a passing trend—it’s a gentle shift toward living more intentionally, even in how we express intimacy.

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Beyond Spa Days: What Self-Care Looks Like Now

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Not long ago, self-care was something people associated with indulgence. A face mask here, a long bath there, maybe a glass of wine and a playlist that made you feel like the main character. It was something you did on Sundays to reset before the chaos began again. But something’s shifted. These days, taking care of yourself doesn’t always look relaxing—or even enjoyable. Sometimes, it’s hard. Sometimes, it’s awkward. But it’s also more honest than ever.

For many people, self-care now means paying closer attention to what drains you—and choosing to step back, even if it’s uncomfortable. That could mean declining a group hangout because your energy’s shot. Or staying off your phone past 8 p.m. because you’re tired of bad news and dopamine loops. It’s noticing that you’re snapping more than usual, and asking why, instead of brushing it off as stress.

It’s also in the quiet routines that don’t make it to social media. Taking your meds every morning. Cooking enough food for the week because you know your future self will thank you. Booking a therapy session after putting it off for months. Tidying up—not to impress anyone—but because clutter makes it harder to think.

And there’s more nuance to it now. Resting doesn’t always mean lying on the couch all day. For some, it’s waking up early to walk before the streets get noisy. For others, it’s dropping a workout that used to feel good but now feels punishing. It’s adjusting—not quitting—when your body or brain tells you something’s off.

People are also learning that being constantly available isn’t sustainable. Ignoring texts for a while isn’t rude—it’s a boundary. Logging off isn’t lazy—it’s necessary. We’re not designed to be “on” all the time, and more people are beginning to live like that’s actually true.

Self-care isn’t one-size-fits-all anymore, and maybe it never was. For a new mother, it might be asking for help without feeling guilty. For a college student, it might be dropping a class they can’t mentally keep up with. For someone grieving, it might be just getting through the day with basic hygiene and food. It’s different, and that’s okay.

The idea that self-care has to be pretty or peaceful is fading. Sometimes it looks like letting go of people you’ve outgrown. Sometimes it’s admitting you’re not okay. These aren’t feel-good moments—but they are real, and they’re part of what care actually looks like.

So no, it’s not all candles and bathrobes anymore. And maybe that’s a good thing. Because self-care shouldn’t be something we earn after burnout. It should be something we build into our lives, day by day, even if it’s messy.

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