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Unlearning the Relationship Myths We Grew Up With

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11 months ago

19 June 2025

From childhood to adulthood, we’ve been taught so many ideas about love and relationships—through our parents, religious teachings, cultural norms, and Nollywood. Some of these beliefs are helpful, but many are myths that lead to confusion, pain, and unrealistic expectations. In Nigeria, where love and family are held in high regard, it’s time we start unlearning the relationship myths we grew up with—and replace them with healthier truths.

“True Love Conquers All”

We grew up hearing that as long as you truly love someone, everything would somehow work out. But in reality, love by itself isn’t always enough. You can love someone deeply and still struggle with communication, clashing values, financial stress, or personal growth. Thinking love fixes everything can make you overlook real issues that need to be addressed. Yes, love is the foundation—but it needs honesty, respect, and effort to thrive.

“Marriage Is the Ultimate Goal”

In Nigerian society, Marriage is often seen as a final achievement or prize. Once a woman reaches a certain age, family members start asking, “When are you getting married?” But the truth is, marriage is not the end goal of life. It’s a journey shared with another person, not a final stop. Rushing into marriage to meet expectations or or avoid pressure can lead to unhappy unions. It’s okay to focus on personal growth, build your career, or take time to heal before choosing a life partner.

“You Must Marry Within Your Tribe or Religion”

This myth still persists in many homes. Some families believe love should only happen within your tribe or faith. But love often defies those boundaries. People from different backgrounds can have strong, happy relationships if they share the same values and are willing to respect each other’s differences. While family input is important, your happiness and peace should come first. Love should be about connection, not just culture.

“One Person Must Always Lead”

Traditionally, we’re taught that the man leads while the woman follows. But in today’s world, a relationship should feel like teamwork. Decisions should be made together, with both partners feeling heard. Whether it’s finances, parenting, or life plans, both voices matter. Respect and understanding make relationships stronger—not control.

“Jealousy Means You Care”

Many people mistake jealousy for love. Some believe if their partner isn’t jealous, then they must not care. But jealousy often comes from fear and insecurity, not love. Monitoring phones, interrogating, or arguing over harmless friendships can damage trust. Real love is built on trust, not control. If something is bothering you, have an open conversation instead of jumping to conclusions.

“Stay No Matter What” vs. “Leave at the First Fight”

We’ve often been stuck between two extremes. Some believe you should stay no matter what—even when it’s toxic. Others think that any problem means it’s time to leave. But the truth lies somewhere in between. Not every argument means the relationship should end, and not every relationship should be saved. The key is learning to tell the difference. If the issues are fixable, work through them together. If the relationship becomes harmful, it’s okay to walk away.

How to Unlearn These Myths

Unlearning doesn’t happen overnight. It starts by asking yourself where your beliefs came from and whether they’re still serving you in a healthy way. Talk with people you trust about what you’re discovering. Watch couples who have balanced and honest relationships—not perfect couples, but real, emotionally honest ones. Set clear boundaries for what you want in love, and communicate them with your partner. Listen more. Talk openly. When you both navigate conflict or tough conversations with more care, celebrate those moments.

Love is beautiful—but to truly enjoy it, we must unlearn the myths we’ve been told.

The truth is, every relationship is different. What works for others might not suit you—and that’s perfectly fine.

By letting go of beliefs like “love conquers all” or “marry before you run out of time,” you give yourself a better chance at finding real, lasting happiness. Choose what works for you.

Build a love that fits your heart—not just society’s script.

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The Otedolas Share Glimpses of Tolani Otedola’s Birthday Getaway in Monaco

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2 weeks ago

6 May 2026

Bridget Samuel

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Tolani Otedola marked her 40th birthday in Monte Carlo, Monaco, with a private family getaway that unfolded across luxury dinners, yacht outings, and intimate celebrations shared by the Otedola family.

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Her family shared highlights of the celebration across their social platforms. Femi Otedola posted on his X account, “Happy Birthday to my first princess. Watching you grow into the woman you are today has been a real blessing. Proud of you even if you think you know everything now.” A proud father who is simply in awe of his daughter’s growth into adulthood, with a career in Music and making an impact just like him. Even though he ends his praise on a note that she still doesn’t know everything, even though she claims she does.

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Temi and Cuppy, her sisters, posted their own point of view on the celebration. They had a family drive in their father’s vintage Rolls-Royce Corniche convertible.

Sharing moments from the celebration on Instagram, DJ Cuppy shared that the family came together for the occasion: “Whole crew tuned up for Tolani.” With shared visuals of family photo moments, dining at a restaurant, and wine tasting.

Temi shared highlights from the celebration on a yacht, including cake-cutting and shared moments with her mother and sister. She captioned: “We love you, Tolani.”

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Tolani Otedola is Femi Otedola’s first daughter from his previous marriage. She has carved out her own path in entertainment as a singer, while her sisters have also built distinct careers across creative industries. DJ Cuppy in music, and Temi Otedola in fashion, modelling, and acting.

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5 Restaurants in Abuja to Bookmark This Weekend.

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1 month ago

18 April 2026

Bridget Samuel

Ready for a weekend in Abuja?
Whether you’re planning a business lunch in Maitama, a weekend brunch, or a romantic dinner, the capital’s culinary map has never been more exciting. This weekend, we’re stepping away from the usual and diving into five spots that are currently influencing Abuja’s dining scene. These are locations you need to visit and take photographs when you get there.

BluCabana Restaurant & Cafe

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As you pull off Shehu Yar’adua Boulevard, the noise is replaced by the sight of swaying palm trees and the cool, blue-lit pool. This place has long been recognised as a staple of the Abuja lifestyle scene, not just for its food but on leisure dining experience. Whether you’re lounging poolside or stepping into their newly revamped indoor space, this spot gives that experience.

BluCubana has an international menu. Mediterranean and Continental cuisine, Lebanese-inspired dishes, are also included in the menu. If you’re visiting this weekend, their Hummus Shawarma or Mixed Grill Platter is a recommended dish. For that local twist on International food, BluCabana Pizza or Suya Fire Steak Sandwich is something you should try. Their service remains top-notch and attentive.

Saffron Cafe

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Located at Ajesa Street in a quiet corner of Wuse 2, the spot gives a relaxed cafe setting. Perfect for solo coffee dates and professional meetings. One of their features is the selection of pen-and-paper games on the tables. This is a good spot for breakfast. Their foreman breakfast (yam, plantains, and egg sauce) is a local staple. Saffron Cafe is also family-friendly.

City Creamy at No. 7 Cape Town Street.

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They specialise in creamy desserts, velvety textures and creative mix-ins. They have a variety of ice cream flavours from chocolate to fruity, loaded with toppings. City Creamy thick milkshakes and waffles are a popular choice. Their hot and crispy waffles are a dessert you can pair with a cold scoop of ice cream. The spot is located in Wuse Zone 4 and is known for quick service delivery. Their menu is affordable and consistent to satisfy any sweet tooth.

Grill City in Guzape

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One defining spot for the irresistible aroma of grilled meat for meat lovers. Situated by the ENL/GRP gate, the place is known for its view of the area and is easily accessible. Their Grilled Fish is their signature dish, well seasoned, moist on the inside and served with their signature spicy sauce. If you’re a fan of poultry, their smoky Grilled Chicken and Wings is a must-try. Whether you’re pairing your protein with spicy chips, fried plantain (dodo), or a side of jollof rice.

Cantina Restaurant

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Tucked away on Yedseram Street in Maitama. Cantina feels warmly welcoming. The setting is clean and calm, with lush greenery, and the floor-to-ceiling windows are flooded with natural light during the day. The outdoor seating area is popular for those who enjoy a garden-style seating. Their menu is stacked with Italian and Mediterranean cuisine. From homemade pastas to their Seafood Platter, which are a popular dishes for seafood lovers. The restaurant has a wine cellar, curated to pair with their main dishes, creating a calm dining environment for lunch or long, wine-filled dinners. Their staff are professional, knowledgeable about the menu pairings, and attentive.

Whether you’re looking for a date spot or evening dining, these spots are worth visiting.

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Mr Eazi Leads DJ Cuppy Through a Private Wine Tasting

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2 months ago

4 April 2026

Laju Odogwu

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Mr Eazi and DJ Cuppy shared a fun moment recently when the artist sat down with his sister-in-law for an intimate outing with family that turned into a private wine tasting session for DJ Cuppy. In the video shared online, he took her through a full tasting session taking his time without rushing.

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Mr Eazi married Temi Otedola, DJ Cuppy’s younger sister, in August 2025, making him a part of the Otedola family. The two have had a working relationship for years, but this was a different kind of session altogether.

In the video, Mr Eazi introduced the wine as a Barolo, an Italian red wine from the Piedmont region that he describes as “the wine of the kings.” He tells Cuppy exactly what to do. “You need to just swirl it a little bit just so that the body can open up. Then you close your eyes and breathe it in,” he says. He then turns to her and asks, “Can you smell anything? tell me what you smell.” Cuppy leans forward, takes a sniff, and gives him an interesting answer. “I smell soil. I actually smell soil. But why can’t I taste it?” she asked. Mr Eazi explains it simply. “When you let the air pass through it, you start to feel the spiciness,” he tells her.

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The tasting was part of Temi Otedola’s 30th birthday trip to Spain. Temi celebrated with family including Mr Eazi, Nana Otedola and her sisters DJ Cuppy and Tolani Otedola. It was a quiet, private celebration with just the people she was closest with.

Between Temi’s 30th birthday and a wine lesson in Spain, the Otedola family clearly had a good time. And if this video is anything to go by, Cuppy might just be a wine person.