Lifestyle

Morning Sex: More Nigerians are Starting the Day in Bed

Published

5 months ago

15 July 2025

There’s a quiet but palpable change happening in Nigerian bedrooms—and it’s taking place in the mornings. More and more, Nigerians are starting the day no longer with tea or a traffic report, but with intimacy. Sex in the morning, once a private pleasure, is becoming mainstream as one of the couple’s daily rituals across the country, driven by changes in attitudes toward wellness, relationships, and work-life, not just for pleasure, but as a health plan.

It was discovered in recent polls by lifestyle and dating websites in the major cities of Lagos, Abuja, and Port Harcourt that more than 60% of Nigerian adults aged 25 to 45 admit to having engaged in morning intimacy at least once in the past month. Of them, nearly 40% say that it has become a matter of weekly habit.

Experts point out several factors fuelling this trend. Advances in remote and flexible working have reduced the morning commute for many city dwellers. With commutes either reduced or eliminated completely, couples have more time to connect with each other before the workday begins. In the meantime, there is greater awareness of the health benefits associated with morning intimacy—both mental and physical.

“Morning sex releases endorphins and oxytocin, which reduce stress and promote emotional bonding,” explains Dr. Ifeoma Ajayi, a Lagos psychologist and wellness coach. “It’s said to lift your mood, improve your concentration, and even benefit immune function.” It’s a natural kick-start for the day.”

For some, it’s also reviving closeness in long-term relationships. Relationship advisors say many couples struggle to incorporate quality time together into packed schedules after long workdays. Mornings that were once filled with alarm clocks and hurrying around are now being reclaimed for connection.

“There’s a shift in culture, indeed,” says Chuka Eze, who edits the relationship column for Naija Living Today. “Nigerians are more openly talking about sex and intimacy, not merely as personal acts, but as components of overall health and relationship health.”

This trend is not limited to youth or city residents alone. Whether experienced professionals living in Ibadan or just-wed couples in Enugu, couples across all of Nigeria are embracing the notion that the way you wake up dictates everything that follows.

Local brands are beginning to take notice. Lifestyle brands are selling “slow mornings,” and even some wellness influencers are adding intimacy into their morning routine videos. It recently featured one TikTok video that broke the internet where a couple talked about how “morning love” changed their relationship and it accumulated over 1.2 million views.

Talking about sex openly still makes many people uncomfortable, even as attitudes slowly begin to change. In many communities, it’s a topic wrapped in silence, with calls for privacy often clashing with the growing need for honest conversations around intimacy and sexual well-being.

Yet, despite the hush, more Nigerians are embracing morning sex as part of everyday life. For some, it’s about nurturing love and connection. For others, it’s a way to start the day on a happier, healthier note. Whatever the reason, it’s becoming clear that this isn’t just a passing trend—it’s a gentle shift toward living more intentionally, even in how we express intimacy.

Sex & Relashionships

Ghostlighting: The Relationship Red Flag People Are Only Just Naming

Published

5 days ago

5 December 2025

Ogbu John

You’ve probably heard of ghosting and gaslighting. But there’s a newer, subtler danger lurking in modern relationships: ghostlighting. It’s sneaky, confusing, and, until recently, had no name.

Ghostlighting happens when someone disappears, with texts unanswered and calls ignored, and then, when they finally respond, they dismiss your feelings. Suddenly, you’re the “overthinking” one, questioning your own reaction. Unlike ghosting, which is abrupt and final, ghostlighting keeps you hanging in uncertainty. And unlike gaslighting, it doesn’t rely on lies; it works through inconsistency and minimization, leaving you second-guessing yourself.

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This isn’t just a dating quirk. Over time, ghostlighting can erode confidence, damage self-esteem, and make it hard to trust your instincts. It thrives in early relationships, but it can show up anywhere, even in long-term partnerships or friendships.

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How do you spot it? Watch for repeated patterns: disappearing for days or weeks, giving excuses that don’t match the behavior, dismissing your emotions, or making you feel “too sensitive.” If this sounds familiar, take it seriously. Healthy relationships are consistent, communicate openly, and respect boundaries. Ghostlighting is none of these.

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Naming ghostlighting isn’t about shaming anyone; it’s about recognizing harmful behavior. Once you see it for what it is, you can protect yourself, set limits, and trust your feelings again.

Relationships are complicated, but knowing the warning signs makes navigating them easier. Ghostlighting may be subtle, but understanding it is a step toward healthier connections and toward respecting yourself enough not to settle for anything less.

Lifestyle

When Is the Right Time to Put Up Christmas Decorations?

Published

2 weeks ago

24 November 2025

Ogbu John

Christmas is approaching, and for many Nigerians, that means it’s almost time to bring out the lights, ornaments, and seasonal sparkle. But when exactly should you start decorating your home? The answer depends on your style, family, and how much holiday cheer you can enjoy without feeling stressed.

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Some households begin in November, turning their living rooms and balconies into sparkling mini-winter wonderlands. For families with kids, early decorations double as a countdown to the big day, building excitement with every string of lights and hanging ornament. Others prefer to wait until December, keeping everything fresh and impactful right up to Christmas Day.

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Local interior designers suggest a sweet spot: the last weekend of November. By then, homes can glow with holiday energy while staying lively and relevant through family visits, church services, and neighborhood celebrations. For offices and public spaces, decorating too early can make the season feel stretched, while waiting too long may leave little time for guests and staff to enjoy the festive mood.

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Ultimately, the “right time” is personal. Some Nigerian families start as soon as the streetlights twinkle and the scent of jollof fills the kitchen; others wait until Advent begins. Whether you begin early or late, the key is to enjoy the process. Hang your LED lights on the palm tree, string ornaments along the windows, or place a small Christmas tree in the living room for everyone to admire.

At the end of the day, it’s not the exact timing that matters but the joy, warmth, and shared moments that Christmas decorations bring to your home. So untangle those lights, set up your tree, and let your space celebrate the season, when it feels right for you.

Sex & Relashionships

What is Monogamism in Relationship?

Published

3 weeks ago

20 November 2025

Trisha Dona

Monogamism is the belief that people should practice monogamy not just the act of being with one partner, but the ideology that it is the ideal, proper, or preferred relationship structure. It sits at the intersection of culture, religion, personal values, and social expectation.

Unlike simple monogamy (the practice), monogamism is the viewpoint that monogamy is the correct model for romantic life. It is a framework shaped by upbringing, tradition, and personal boundaries.

Why People Choose It

Several factors influence why people embrace monogamism:
Cultural grounding: Many communities in Nigeria, though diverse, teach commitment to one partner as part of adulthood and responsibility.

Religious influence: Christianity and Islam have a strong presence across the country, and both introduce ideas around exclusivity, fidelity, and partnership.

Emotional structure: Some individuals feel more secure when their romantic life is centred on one person, with clear expectations and stability.

This isn’t about superiority. It’s about understanding how people align their relationships with their values.

How Modern Dating Has Complicated the Conversation

While monogamism remains common, the dating landscape in Nigeria is changing quickly. Social media, career-driven lifestyles, delayed marriage, and exposure to global relationship conversations have created a wider range of choices. These shifts challenge unspoken rules that once went unquestioned.
People now explore:

° Situationships

° Exclusive dating without long-term certainty

° Open relationships within specific circles

° Marriage-focused courtship

° Traditional monogamy

This makes monogamism more of an intentional choice than something inherited without question.