Lifestyle
Connection Between Sex and Mental Health

There is a deep connection between sex and mental health and why it’s not just about the orgasm sex isn’t just a physical act.
It’s tangled up with our emotions, our self-worth, and even our mental well-being. Whether you’re having it regularly, not at all, or somewhere in between, sex (or the lack of it) plays a bigger role in your mental health than you might think.
1. Sex as a Mood Booster (Thanks to Science!)
Ever noticed how a good romp in the sheets can make stress melt away? That’s not just in your head, literally. Sex releases a cocktail of feel-good chemicals:
– Oxytocin (the cuddle hormone) promotes bonding and reduces anxiety.
– Endorphins act like natural painkillers and stress relievers.
– Dopamine gives you that euphoric, “I’m on top of the world” feeling.
It’s like nature’s antidepressant, no prescription needed. But here’s the catch: it only works when the sex is good and consensual. Bad or forced sex? That can do the exact opposite.
2. When Sex is Missing: The Frustration Factor
Dry spells happen, life gets busy, relationships hit rough patches, or maybe you’re just not feeling it. But when sex disappears for too long, it can mess with your head:
– Self-esteem takes a hit (“Am I unattractive?”)
– Anxiety creeps in (“Is something wrong with me?”)
– Resentment builds (especially in relationships where one person wants it more)
It’s not just about “getting some.” It’s about feeling desired, connected, and alive.
3. Bad Sex vs. Good Sex: The Mental Health Divide
Not all sex is created equal. Great sex can make you feel invincible. Bad sex (or worse, obligation sex) can leave you feeling empty, used, or even ashamed.
– Good sex = mutual pleasure, communication, presence.
– Bad sex = performance pressure, disconnection, regret.
If sex leaves you feeling worse afterward, it’s worth asking why. Are you doing it for yourself, or for someone else’s approval?
4. The Dark Side: When Sex Hurts Instead of Heals
For some, sex isn’t a happy topic. Trauma, dysfunction, or past abuse can turn intimacy into a minefield. If sex triggers anxiety, shame, or panic, therapy (especially with a sex-positive counselor) can help rebuild a healthier relationship with it.
5. What If You’re Just Not Into It?
And that’s completely okay. Asexuality, low libido (thanks to stress!), or just personal preference, you don’t need sex to be mentally healthy. What matters is honesty with yourself and your partner(s).
Read Also: Sex and Relationships: Effective Ways to Deliver Criticism to Your Partner Without Causing Conflict
Sex is Mental, Not Just Physical, your brain is your biggest sex organ. If your mental health is struggling, your sex life will reflect that. And if your sex life is off, your mood will too. The key? Don’t ignore it.
Talk about it, explore it, and above all make sure it’s serving you, not hurting you.
So… how’s your relationship with sex these days? (No judgment here.)
Sex & Relashionships
Can Your Partner’s Scent Actually Reduce Anxiety?

Ever noticed how just catching a whiff of your partner can make a stressful day feel a little lighter? That comforting smell isn’t just in your head; science suggests it can have real calming effects.
Research indicates that familiar scents, like your partner’s perfume, cologne, or natural body odor, may trigger the release of oxytocin, a hormone linked to bonding and relaxation. Simply hugging your partner, snuggling, or keeping a worn T-shirt nearby can help you feel calmer after a tense day.
Our brains are wired to connect smells with memories and emotions. The olfactory system interacts closely with areas of the brain that regulate fear and anxiety, such as the amygdala. That’s why a partner’s scent can give an almost instant sense of comfort and safety.
For couples in long-distance relationships, these effects can be especially valuable. Swapping clothing items or using shared-scented products can create a sense of closeness even when physical hugs aren’t possible. In daily life, this subtle connection can strengthen emotional bonds while easing stress.
Of course, the effect isn’t the same for everyone. Personal preferences, past experiences, and even genetics can influence how soothing a partner’s scent feels. But for many people, a familiar fragrance is a simple, quietly powerful way to feel more relaxed and connected.
Lifestyle
Nigeria’s First Treehouse Restaurant

Port Harcourt just got a dining upgrade, and it is literally above the rest. TreeHouse Afriq, Nigeria’s first treehouse restaurant, offers a one-of-a-kind experience where good food meets fresh air and leafy views.
A Meal with a View
Forget ordinary tables and chairs. Here, you will enjoy your jollof rice, grilled fish, or plantain fritters while perched among branches, with the gentle sway of trees adding a calming soundtrack. It provides a quiet escape from the city’s hustle without leaving it behind.
Modern Flavors, Local Roots
TreeHouse Afriq specializes in Afrofusion cuisine, blending traditional Nigerian flavors with a contemporary twist. Every dish is thoughtfully prepared, and the drinks menu features cocktails that enhance rather than compete with the flavors on your plate. It offers familiar food, served from a fresh perspective.
The Atmosphere Matters
The magic of TreeHouse Afriq goes beyond the food; the setting takes center stage. Open-air seating, soft lighting, and natural greenery create a warm, intimate space perfect for casual dinners, small celebrations, or simply enjoying a quiet evening out.
Setting a New Standard
While Lagos has its share of treehouse-themed spots, TreeHouse Afriq stands as the first in Port Harcourt to bring this concept to life fully. It reflects how Nigerian dining is evolving, offering experiences that extend beyond food and appealing to both locals and visitors seeking something memorable.
Plan Your Visit
Located at No. 1A Bank Road, Old GRA, beside the NBA House, TreeHouse Afriq is easy to find and impossible to forget. Whether you are a local resident or just visiting, a meal here promises an experience that will linger in memory long after the last bite.
Sex & Relashionships
What is Shreking? The Trend Changing Modern Relationships

Dating in Nigeria today comes with twists and turns we never saw coming. From swiping on apps to endless chats on WhatsApp, it feels like the rules keep changing. And now, there’s a new term in town: Shreking. No, it has nothing to do with ogres or fairy tales. This is a modern dating habit that’s quietly taking over.
What Shreking Really Means
Shreking is when someone dates a person they’re not genuinely attracted to, often because they hope the other person will treat them like a queen or king. It’s not about love or chemistry; it’s about comfort, attention, or perks.
Imagine dating someone who buys you gifts, always wants to spend time with you, or goes out of their way to make you feel special, but deep down, you don’t feel that spark. That is Shreking in action.
Why People Shrek
People Shrek for different reasons. Some are tired of being rejected and settle for someone who will appreciate them. Others are drawn to the security or admiration a partner offers rather than genuine feelings.
With dating apps making it easy to meet people but hard to build real connections, Shreking becomes a shortcut. It is a way to enjoy the perks of being in a relationship without the messy work of emotional investment.
The Risks Involved
Shreking might feel harmless at first, but it comes with consequences. The person being Shreked often ends up confused and hurt, thinking there’s a deeper connection. Meanwhile, the person doing the Shreking risks missing out on real intimacy because the relationship is based on convenience rather than attraction.
It also creates awkward situations. When honesty is missing, expectations clash, and both sides can end up frustrated.
Is This a New Thing?
Not really. People have always dated for reasons other than love: status, comfort, or stability. What is different now is that social media and dating apps make it more visible and easier to discuss. Shreking simply has a catchy new name.
How to Navigate It
If you’re dating in today’s world, it helps to pay attention to your motives and theirs. Ask yourself: Are you with someone because of genuine attraction, or because they make your life easier? Notice if someone is truly interested in you, or just what you bring to the table.
Relationships work best when both people feel a real connection and make an effort for each other. Shreking may provide temporary comfort, but it rarely leads to something lasting.
Bottom Line
Shreking is more than slang. It reflects how modern dating is evolving and makes us question the choices we make about love and connection. Next time someone asks if you’re Shreking, pause and reflect. Your answer may reveal more about your heart than you expect.
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